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I am pro-choice in the abortion debate but I part ways with the crowd who want to feel better about abortion by dehumanizing and isolating the unborn. The title of the poem comes from "Et tu, Brute?" (meaning "And you too, Brutus?") the reputed last words of Julius Caesar, uttered in shock that his beloved Brutus was among the conspirators stabbing him to death. The idea is that when the aborted child confronts its impending death and turns around to see its mother's face among the "conspirators", it cannot help but ask in shock, "Et tu, mama?" (And you too, my mum?). In the poem itself, there is a further question: "Et tu, doctor?" This aims to capture the irony that the two people whose presence comforts us most when our health is in distress (mum and the doctor) are the same people who comprise the lethal duo of the abortion clinic. Shorn of the care of our customary caregivers, someone must stand by the aborted child in its final hours.

What makes you human without your limbs, Human without your nose and toes – What makes you human without your ears Makes the unborn me human without your form. Yes, it’s my essence, not form, which counts: Be not liberal in defining gender yet conservative in defining life. By one sentence do mass killings in the world and womb begin: “They don’t look like us and don’t act like us: they’re not human.” Today, I heard hushed voices say so – then came a sharp pain. How I wished sweet mum or the doctor would come: I little knew they were here and directed the attack. “Et tu, mama? Et tu, doctor?” Dying words, I uttered. “Your life is not good for ours,” they said. Out of my cradle they forced me and whisked me past the world into the grave. “It’s my body, my choices,” I heard mum say. Yet I challenge not what she does with her body but with mine: It’s “my body, my choices” after all, in this her world. My flesh is aborted but not my voice; lend it your lips, for mine are gone. Then, perhaps, the unborn shall like the dead rest in peace some day: Not belittled, not assaulted, shielded with concrete and taboos… Behind me gut microbes swarm and play where side by side we formerly lay. Now mum’s cuddly flesh they enjoy better than me -- They must think they’re her babies and me the intruder.

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Date: 11/9/2022 12:13:00 PM
I can appreciate this piece
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Agona Apell
Date: 11/20/2022 2:15:00 AM
Thank u!
Date: 11/8/2022 6:44:00 AM
Depressing poem.
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Agona Apell
Date: 11/20/2022 2:18:00 AM
Pain, death, difficult choices are all depressing stuff. Thanks for dropping in.
Date: 11/8/2022 4:09:00 AM
My first acquaintance with your work -Agona and what a thrill it is. Third person perspective which is so lacking in this world of ego-oriented, selfish thinking. I'm not pro-choice myself, but with your view of the unborn as essence, life I so agree. Your Shakespearian setting is so appropo, I recently did a piece on Caesar's sixty friends. Would like to see you post more pieces.
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Agona Apell
Date: 11/20/2022 2:22:00 AM
I couldn't resist framing the title around Caesar's question -- what would we do without Shakespeare? Thank u for the kind compliments.
Date: 8/15/2022 2:50:00 AM
Hi Agona this is an interesting poem that stimulates one's imagination about inner voice. Regards Mpho.
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Agona Apell
Date: 8/26/2022 1:45:00 AM
Thanks for dropping in -- I'm glad u found it worthy of your attention
Date: 8/13/2022 2:28:00 AM
Ooh, this makes me shudder. Very good poem AA. Very good poem. Thank you.
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Date: 8/26/2022 1:43:00 AM
Thank u Andrew, thank u!
Date: 8/12/2022 8:36:00 PM
Love this message...Should be placed in a bottle and sent to every shore. The poet tells us to be aware of our inner character for we are more than the physical. Really love the By One Sentence Line...Great sharing
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Agona Apell
Date: 8/26/2022 1:40:00 AM
I'm flattered that a fellow poet finds it worth sharing "in a bottle to every shore." Abortion is a difficult subject, and none of us wants to see a mother lose her health or life due to complications of pregnancy. But we must not dehumanize the unborn who already suffer a cruel fate in a nonviable pregnancy. Thank u for passing by and for the kind thoughts.
Date: 8/12/2022 11:06:00 AM
Thanks for this beautiful poem and Welcome Agona:o)
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Agona Apell
Date: 8/26/2022 1:23:00 AM
Thank u Aby for your kind words

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