Love Is a Decision

Love is not based on a feeling only There must also be a clear decision Passionate feelings may die off early Showing it was just infatuation One should not need another as a crutch But be able to stand on one's feet This will allow each other space as such And enrichen the sharing when both meet A love relationship has its demands It does not ensure smooth sailing always Be mindful of this in each circumstance And it will help you survive the rough days The one that you love should be your best friend Someone with whom you can share everything A person upon whom you can depend In situations that can be trying As time passes, both of you will change For change is inevitable in life Do not consider this as something strange Learn to adjust and avoid any strife True love is the most precious emotion That a person can engage in sharing It fills the heart with blissful elation Giving one's life a rich sense of meaning "Love is a decision, it is a judgement, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgement and decision." - Erich Fromm - (The Art of Loving) "But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow." Kahlil Gibran – (The Prophet)