Marriage Is A Choo Choo
Marriage is a Choo Choo
(50 will get you 100 if you have 100 to give)
Marriage is like a train, where participants, the two passengers or couples are the people going on the ride called marriage, side by side on the rails of life and love.
The husband is the left rail. (I mean literally the left rail.) The wife is the right rail. They start off as equals, as parallel partners together in a state of railway bliss; off on the ride of their lives, on the tracks of destiny in the wonderful playful world where compatibility in matrimony matters.
Sometimes one spouse moves on ahead a little faster than the other on the rail. The wife might make a little more money, grow more scholastically with her college or technical skills and education. The husband might get side tracked with his buddies by drinking a wee bit too much and play with his male buddies at the sand box of life called bars.
Sometimes a mate changes genders at the stations of the mind but never mind.
Choo choo relationships sometimes become derailed because one or the other partner changes, perhaps heads in another direction all together or moves at different speeds on the fatal track fantastic. Look out! There is a cliff! Or is that a brick wall up ahead?
Cho choo trains never stand still. Change is inevitable. Husbands and wives naturally move at a different pace gliding through time. They too are always in motion on the choo choo of life.
Now lets talk about dead weight, dead freight and baggage from another relationship. Lets talk about the 100% marriage vs. the very popular 50/50 marriage “ideal” in pop culture from the 80s, which in reality is an anathema to survival of said relationship, which is a perversion of the word “ideal” in my estimation.
If the husband gets lazy in the marriage, it becomes important for the wife to pull her spouse along on the line in order to keep the train and marriage working. If there are children from another relationship involved, then the wife has more freight to pull along in the 50% - 50% relationship. The math is simple. In such a relationship that means that she, as an example; will only have to do 50% of the dishes or drive the children half the way to their school or sporting event.
The wife will have to give at least 20 or 30% more effort to reach her 50% margin at most times. The productivity quotient is clearly limited. The choo choo is sure to fail with those percentages.
In a 100% relationship the expectation is for both parties to agree from the beginning to give 100% of themselves and to give 100% effort at all times to the choo choo to make the engine go.
If Mr. or Mrs. dead weight are not keeping up their part of the choo choo production over time then the marriage might survive when both parties involved are committed to 100% giving of themselves. If both parties make the commitment, (and lets face it, marriage is a commitment), over the long haul, then you might see the scenarios where one spouse might have to pull more than 70% of the relationship freight along the rails and the other spouse is only applying 30% effort. You still have some chance for survival of the choo choo future. When you have 100% commitment instead of 50% commitment you simply have more power and more production capabilities.
The choo choo only works when the rails are aligned. It is not always about a train rushing through a mountain tunnel to reach a climax at top speed to see the light on the other side. Even Freud once said; sometimes a banana is just a banana and a train going through a tunnel is just a train. Choo choo!
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